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They just said it's quite concerning as this specific manager doesn't talk to anyone and he is basically a mystery to everyone, including the other management, and for him to share such personal things with me is concerning.

I have to go through a metal detector at security every morning. We can't have phones or anything phone related, no weapons or anything. If we get caught with headphones if we've accidentally left them in our pocket, we can get written up and face losing our job. We handle the packages and they think we've stolen items from boxes if we have extra stuff. I'm allowed to have my wrist strap for my scanner on the van lines and that's it. My one manager Nick is MMA and Judo trained, he said if I have any problems find him immediately. I'm honestly scared to death to go in tonight.

I ride with my friend Daniel and we usually leave together. I work a 2am to 8am shift. They won't adjust the schedule, they'll probably fire him. The department I work in is quite large and the manager that I've file against is in charge of 3 package belts. I'll just ask to stay in unload or go to belts 100-500.

Sending you love.

You are not responsible for his actions - don't beat yourself up about it!

The manager in question, his name is Francis. Hes a really sweet guy, but Saturday he took it too far by cornering me in the delivery trucks and telling me about his personal sex life. I won't tell exactly what he said because it's too graphic for the forum.

Good on you for reporting - that takes bravery! I'm glad you will feel safer, and I'm glad your higher ups stood up for you.

He has a thing for you. Trust your gut. I am so sorry you are dealing with this.

Are you seeing a counselor about the nightmares sweetheart? :(

It's going to sound weird but watch some videos of cats hissing and snarling and screaming and then practice it yourself. It's fun and if you get good at it you get a crazy take-no-**** glint in your eye that makes everyone think you're Wolverine...

If he is showing a predictive behavior in sending the other people home early then alert management immediately. If he tries to do it again then counter ASSERTIVELY by asking another coworker to stay with you both or you can volunteer to leave and ask another coworker to stay instead. Then WALK OUT. If not all of you need to stay, then it DOES NOT have to be you who stays every time. If he gets angry about this then something is wrong and you're NOT just overthinking things.

If you end up working with him again and he asks about you getting overwhelmed, say you are fine and that management just asked you to help in another department. Your attitude could be that he just happened to be there and he doesn't matter a wit in your life. If he's not responsible for training you then you don't need to admit any possible weakness to him.

If you absolutely feel the need to take self defense courses then Krav Maga is a no frills, all grit end-it style that the armed forces use. A friend in the army also emphasizing learning to grapple because most fights end up on the ground. :(

Kind of a dead thread now, but I feel the need to update for those that may be following:

Francis was suspended for sexually harassing another girl in the exact same way as me. I talked to Micaiah, another manager when he joined my conversation with my friends Shaura and Brad after work and Brad had asked him about where Francis has been. Micaiah said he was on suspension for sexual harassment. I then asked him if he had heard about the incident with Francis in December and he said yes, he had, and I told him that it had happened to me. He then said that the other girl had been told, almost word for word, what I had been told. And there's no way she could've known about what happened to me and what was said, she's only been there a little under a month. Right now, he's on suspension, he's best friends with the guy that can make the final decision about firing him or ending his suspension and demoting him to package handler again. If he comes back as a package handler, then I won't feel as intimidated and would be able to take a stand should anything happen. I hope he learns his lesson if he is brought back after suspension, but most people want him fired. Me included.

Another Update:

I've just returned from a week in Memphis, Tennessee. My grandmother isn't doing so well. While I was trying to enjoy the time I was there, I was informed that Francis has been allowed to return to work and keep his management position. I work on the 800 belt now, which was his belt before he was suspended. I don't know if they'll move me or him. Then when I return home I find out that the person I left to watch my house and animals trashed my house and bedroom and didn't properly take care of my animals. I left detailed instructions and they were ignored. He denies any wrongdoing. This past week has just been frustrating. I haven't had anxiety in a while and now it's back in full force :(

Oh honey. You are so strong and so brave. You’re not alone there is a bigger picture with whome love and cherrish you. It’s never a good time to go through what you have and for as long as you have! But you have proven within your updates that you are a strong woman!

I would keep records, a notebook, record times/location and what was said. Also speak to a therapist to help your brain also cope with the mental health this will be having on you.

I’m so proud of you for taking a stand!!

@Looper I was actually fired on August 5th. It was an incident involving this manager. I met a new man in June and after I was fired I became a stay at home mom to his 1 yr old. I miss my job very much, despite the amazing amount of stress sometimes it was peaceful for me.