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SpryOfJune · Apr 5, 2019 6:43 PM

Started off, I woke up at 7am. Fell back asleep and overslept. Oh well, I managed. It's only around 68ºF today, but it's soooo hot to me, I'm miserable and grumpy. On top of that, I'm heading to work soon. Funnnn. And the owner/boss nearly never has the AC on anything except nearly 80ºF. I wanna die in that building, because as a server, I never stop moving. And on top of all that, my gf still isn't replying to me. I messaged her Wednesday, I think, saying I needed to know when she wanted me to take off of work so she could come here. She said she had to check with someone to ensure they didn't need the car or have plans already made, but said person wasn't speaking to her at the time. Hey, that's fine. Thursday came, I told her I needed to know by 3pm today what day(s) she wanted me to take off. She only read that message, no reply. I fell asleep (it was about 2pm yesterday), and woke up and told her something I didn't want to forget to tell her. Then said if I didn't have a response by 3pm today, I'd just take off next Thursday and Friday, and if it doesn't work, it's no big deal, I need a break anyway. She still has only read all of my messages and hasn't said anything to me. I know my anxiety isn't helpful here at all, but I still feel a reply of some sort would be a good thing. Am I wrong?

SpryOfJune · Apr 5, 2019 6:50 PM

I'm also trying to decide if I should go to the hospital or not... (I don't have a primary doctor, as I can't afford one). But my jaw keeps popping/locking, and it's literally only getting worse. It's to the point now, I can barely eat food. I literally went about 27 hours (Thursday 3:30pm til about 6:30pm yesterday (Friday), just to avoid it.

Malaayna2 · Apr 6, 2019 1:18 AM

Hugs

Seaswell · Apr 6, 2019 1:33 AM

A dentist will help more than a doctor. See if you can find a sliding scale one near you. As for your gf she might be having anxiety too. Take your days off, and enjoy them either way.

RoseFlute · Apr 6, 2019 1:38 AM

Popping jaws are also a chiropractor thing.

Maybe your girlfriend doesn't want to respond until they have an answer from the other person with the car? I hope this all works out. :)

SpryOfJune · Apr 6, 2019 2:35 AM

@Malaayna2, hugs.

@Seaswell, didn't think of that. Thanks.
She probably is, but it's just unlike her to basically go more than a couple days without replying to me. I guess I'll manage. It's not a huge issue, just given how I am, my mind thinks it is.
I shall.

@RoseFlute, ah, okay. Thanks.
Well, that may be. But my mind is like, "It's her car, and they live with her. Shouldn't be that hard to either get a response, or even at least tell me that she hasn't been able to get one, but will still try. But that's me.
Thanks.

Seaswell · Apr 6, 2019 2:40 AM

Have you tried approaching from 'I just miss your contact' instead of here's a deadline?

SpryOfJune · Apr 6, 2019 2:45 AM

Not fully. About a week ago, I said, "I miss you." She said back the same, and then vanished. But then she decided she thought next week would be good to plan, but she didn't speak to me much about when, until it was almost too late, so I had to tell her that if she did still want to do something, my work gave me no option but to have the request in by today. I figured that might make her say either "just put down two random days" or "let me go ask them and see what they can work around with me". But it didn't. At this point, I just requested off Thursday and Friday, and I'm hoping that works.

Seaswell · Apr 6, 2019 2:56 AM

Here's to her being able to make it and you guys having the best time. :x

In the meantime, it's done.

Repeat after me... I'm going to have a great vacation.

If she shows it will just be bonus.

Go back to just loving your friend, no one likes feeling pressure about something, and she may just be having trouble and want to vent about it without expectation.

SpryOfJune · Apr 6, 2019 3:00 AM

@Seaswell, thanks..
Does reading as repeating count? I totally repeated, either way. More than one, just not exactly intentionally.
True.
That's fair..

Seaswell · Apr 6, 2019 3:10 AM

I've seen enough long distance relationships work. I've seen enough not work. Real life time is great, but not worth being anything but excited about.

Spectrum · May 16, 2019 8:30 PM

@SpryOfJune Disclaimer: Not a doctor, not attempting to diagnose you.

Have you heard of TMJ (Temporomandibular joint dysfunction) syndrome? I have it, but not too badly. Usually my jaw only "pops" or "clicks" if I move my jaw laterally, but if I'm having a flare up I get a lot of pain right under the ear - thought it was an earache until I went to the doctor and he diagnosed me. It's not too hard to manage though, once you know what's up. Maybe you could look into it and see if it matches your symptoms?

Hope you're feeling better, or get to feeling better soon. :)

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